Coping with the Holidays
||Thursday, November 21, 2013 |
||A.J. Desmond & Sons Funeral Home, 2600 Crooks Road, Troy|
William Miles, MD and Mary Jamerino, LMSW, ACSW will offer tips and support for coping with the upcoming holidays.
Missed this annual event? Know that missing loved ones can be particularly difficult during the holidays. Watch the webcast and review the Helpful Holiday Hints below.
To view the webcast, visit http://app.eventbywire.com/viewevent/?id=183-225.
Helpful Holiday Hints
Mary E. Jamerino, A.C.S.W., L.M.S.W.
Director of Bereavement Services, A.J. Desmond & Sons Funeral Directors
The approaching holiday season may be met with ambivalence, anxiety, confusion or even depression. Grieving which is normal, natural and necessary in the healing process may be intensified at the holiday season.
There are no magic cures or easy recipes. What I recommend is that you create a path that is personally helpful for your individual and unique needs.
What you decide to do this year can be changed next year!
Verbalize and embrace your feelings.
Talk about the deceased (the memories and the happy times). Sometimes, you need to initiate the conversation.
Communicate with each other; sometimes all that is needed is a hug.
If you always baked the cookies, try buying the cookies this year. Have family and friends help you shop. Try catalog or online shopping.
Decrease your Christmas card list if you desire. You may choose not to send cards.
Be patient with yourself, take one minute at a time.
Try to relax as difficult as it may be.
Avoid planning every detail specifically. Simplify the holiday season.
Take time to process your feelings. Nurture the spirit within yourself. Create meaning.
If you are a parent with other children, it may be less stressful to celebrate the season.
It is difficult to be joyous, happy etc…when you hurt so much inside. Surround yourself with people who understand this…Be honest about your feelings.
Remember that time does heal…Others have successfully rebuilt their lives after a loss, and although it is never easy, you can too.
Be thankful and grateful for the blessings of family and friends. Have an attitude of gratitude.